The results you are getting are proving your subconscious beliefs right.
We unconsciously manipulate to prove our subconscious beliefs.
Ever find yourself doing something that destroys any results you are trying to get?
Try asking yourself what you are proving by getting the result that you are getting.
What subconscious belief are you proving?
And what would happen if you were to get a different result?
Not just what would happen to you,
What would your friends say?
Would they be supportive?
Would they turn away
Shine a light on your beliefs to change them.